“But I want you to realise that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.” – 1 Corinthians 11:3
God in, His wisdom, has established the role of man and woman, be it in the home or in the church. It’s very clear in His Word, and unless we understand and take the place He has designed for us women, we will struggle to be at rest and peace. I always knew that Miki and I were different, but the reality hit us after we married and started sharing our lives. I was definitely too “bossy” and noisy for him and he was far too slow and quiet for me. Communication was problematic, as I did all the talking and to my frustration, Miki remained quiet. At the time, we didn’t know the Lord and soon, as the situation deteriorated, we started speaking of divorce! I wanted to change Miki and he was busy trying to change me. Obviously it didn’t work and got us both even more frustrated.
After we met the Lord, things started to improve. We went to Bible school and then entered full time ministry, but in all honesty, we still could not see how it would be possible for us to be together as we were so different. Sixteen years later the Lord revealed to Miki that for a man or woman to truly take their place according to God’s Word, they must take up their cross, humble themselves, and allow the Lord to work in their lives. That was a great challenge to me. I started to understand my place, how I needed to accept my husband as he was, and adapt to him, rather than trying to change him. I realised how the Lord had called him to be the head of our home despite his weaknesses and shortcomings and that I had to let go! It did not happen overnight and is still a work in progress as I am a natural leader. Today there is a harmony and peace, and we have even become friends… something I never believed possible. I am so grateful to the Lord for the work He has done in our lives!
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